As you know, I had really dreaded the process of moving my mom out of her lovely home, helping her downsize and move her things into a Senior living apartment, and then dealing with the rest of her household with my two sisters. Your advice and suggestions were invaluable! In an hour of talking, your questions and thoughts re-framed my whole perspective - helping me figure out ahead of time how to make the experience a "win-win" for all of us.
Peter Leakey and Richard Leakey
"I’m sitting on the far side of the death of my father after a four or five year battle with Alzheimer’s. Looking back Barb’s friendship and advice was one of the things that got us through. We first met her at church and her warm friendly personality stood out. Once we heard of her experience in dementia and navigating the maze of medical and social care we knew we had a Godsend.
Barbs advice was so supportive and reassuring. She gently guided us to know what to ignore in the vast oceans of information and potential Alzheimer’s cures the internet suggests. She made rich suggestions on helping Dad be at peace with his prognosis and symptoms.
She was so helpful with wise advise about conversations we needed to have as a family about end of life choices. Her timely nudges when we were reeling following the diagnosis made for a much more peaceful end. As painful as those conversations were having Dad be part of them gave us such reassurance in his last days. It felt like we were able to help Dad finish well and he died peacefully at home.
She’s like the wise friend you know you need as you face up to the reality of dementia of a loved one."
"We would have never made it through my Mom’s illness and death, were it not for the the wise counsel of Barb Barber!
Barb and I talked on a regular basis for about 6 months. Her suggestions were so helpful. Her hunches came true. Her predictions prepared us.
Her compassion validated what we were going through. She even helped us deal with the challenge of siblings with diametrically opposed viewpoints. She was the lifeline we needed to help us cope all the way around."
Jeanie Smith, Ed.D.
Mt. Zion, Illinois
“Working with Barb was a breath of fresh air. She took a very scary and emotional situation and broke it down into bite size pieces for us.
Each step of the way I felt as though she heard and understood my situation and was fully invested in helping my mom and I find the best place to suit Mom’s needs. Her answers were well thought out and decisive and she went above and beyond by visiting my mom’s residence and checking to make sure she was settling in properly.
More than anything, I knew I could trust her expertise and if I had questions that she couldn’t immediately answer she would research until she found out. I’m so thankful for the peace of mind that she brought into an uncertain situation.”
“My sister & I had been caring for our mom at her home for several years. Her dementia was getting worse every day. We were to the point that we knew we had to do something different, but weren’t sure what would be the best for mom. I heard about Barb through a friend, who said she was really good at helping people make these “life-changing” decisions.
We met with Barb and felt comfortable with her right away. She is very caring & compassionate, and was able to give us her objective opinion, as she was not “emotionally” involved with caring for mom. It was extremely helpful that she listened to us, and took notes, and then met with us again to give us a list of things she thought we needed to consider.
Her knowledge of the options of care available for mom were invaluable to us. We had mom on the waiting list at an assisted living memory care facility for almost a year, but after meeting with Barb, we were able to make that difficult decision and moved mom there.
We were very thankful for the wisdom, advice, and compassion that we received from Barb, as this was the most difficult decision we ever made. Mom has been there for about 3 months now, and is doing pretty well.
My sister and I have been able to get some, much needed rest, and we also have been able to take some trips to visit our grandchildren, which we were not able to do before. Thanks again, Barb, for being that “little nudge” that we needed at such an emotional time in our lives.”
Lisa Underwood and Lori Good